Twitter is by far my favourite social media platform simply because of the quality entertainment it provides me, the best part of reading people’s tweets is the fact that you never know if people are really who they tweet in real life.
Getting down to business, I’ve seen #bareminimumTwitter for a while now and I thought I could throw in my two sense of these latest tweets. For those of you who don’t know what I’m talking about, there’s a little example:
I don’t even know where to even begin with this tweet! The idea that if your partner kisses you on the forehead, means that he is going to marry you is just wild. And how someone could come up with this ideology raises a lot of questions for me…
A kiss on the forehead is something anyone can receive, a best friend, a sister, a daughter etc so the fact that it holds some significance is very baffling to me, but hey! We are all different and we don’t all find the same things romantic or cute.
But digging deeper into the bare minimum tweets, there is a bigger problem here and the problem is that people are out in the world with such low standards and expectations of how they should be treated and they don’t even see it!
A kiss on the forehead doesn’t mean that a man is going to marry you, if he calls you for hours on end doesn’t mean that you are the only person he is involved with! I could go on but I’m sure you get what I am trying to say.
When I had my first experiences with boys, I used to be as silly as that tweet, I used to think the simplest actions meant the world and that I was special but the truth was -which I later found out the hard way, was those things I thought meant a lot, didn’t mean shit!
The boy who walked me home every day after school, who spoke to me on the phone till the sun was shining didn’t love me and was dating two other girls at the same time. The boy who revealed his “deepest darkest” secrets to me and told me he was going to marry me one didn’t care about me at all…
Oh and if a lad takes you to meet his mum or even talk to his mum on the phone, definitely doesn’t mean shit because she has spoken to so many others and probably thinks you’re the last girl she spoke to!
It’s true when they say that the only way you will know if your man loves you is if his actions match his words but there should be a standard you need to set at the start of the relationship and know that actions, like kissing your forehead or giving you his leftovers, are not actions of love, they’re basic actions, things any decent human being would do for ANYONE (key word). Your partner should be going above and beyond for you and your expectations and vice-versa but on the flip side every relationship is different and what is a simple “bare minimum” action is to someone may be the biggest grand gesture to some and we just have to leave it to that.